Naturally many people feel
incredibly nervous about the thought of making a speech, but read on
and you will not be lost for words...
Tradition
It is normally the father of the bride,
groom and then the best man who deliver speeches, but there is no
reason why a mother of the bride shouldn’t make a speech herself, or
raise a toast. It is becoming more common for the chief bridesmaid to
speak too, and the content usually mirrors the best man’s role, only
applying the same rules to the bride instead of the groom. In other
words it can include humour, anecdotes, stories illustrating how lovely
the couple are together, advice for married life and, finally, a toast.
Nerves
If you’re worried about your nerves
being a problem on the day, prepare yourself with ways to help you cope
beforehand. To calm your nerves make sure you breathe deeply, which
will also energise your voice when you do speak. Give yourself plenty
of practice and preparation time before the wedding. Make sure you
road-test your speech in front of friends to give you an authentic feel
of presenting in front of an audience; this will also give you the
chance to gain feedback and make any appropriate changes before the
wedding. But don’t be too swayed, remember you know the couple inside
out and nobody is expecting perfection, rather words from the heart
that are true to yourself.
Having practised several times beforehand you should feel comfortable with your speech, so try not to worry too much. Remember to keep it as succinct as possible and if you are showing any images ensure they complement your speech. Project your voice and pronounce every word as clearly as possible so that older relatives and guests at the back of the room don’t miss anything. Pace yourself, and don’t be distracted if you fluff a line – it happens – regain composure and carry on. You may want to consider having a piece of paper with your speech written down, whatever you feel most confident with. Many people find bullet points are more helpful are prompters than having the whole thing written down.
Help!
If you’re looking for some professional
help there are lots of companies offering affordable solutions. The
Wedding Speech Teacher www.theweddingspeechteacher.co.uk can help you come up with a brilliant speech and banish those nerves or try Best Man Talking www.bestmantalking.com, where the emphasis is on delivery.
TOP PREPARATION TIPS
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Positive visualisation is really important part; picture yourself in the venue with everyone in front of you: you’ve just given a great speech, everyone is smiling, and you feel fantastic
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Practice your speech out loud – don’t just go over the words in your head
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As you practice, stand up straight, and relax your shoulders. Make sure your weight is evenly balanced on each foot and that you’re not slouching. Relax your jaw by putting your tongue between your teeth
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Make sure you take full, deep breaths while practising, so that you can easily get to the end of each phrase or sentence without petering out
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Open your mouth more than you would in normal everyday speech, and speak slightly more slowly than usual – it might feel a bit funny at first, but in the reception venue in front of the guests it will sound just right
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Pretend you’re looking around the venue and making eye contact with various guests
- Time your speech – around FIVE minutes is fine, though many go on longer
Many thanks to The Wedding Speech Teacher for their contribution to this feature.
For further information, please contact Lynn Smith or Anna Beckwith, tel: 0141 333 6550 or email: info@theweddingspeechteacher.co.uk
