down the aisle in style

The ceremony's what the whole day's about, so make sure your Big Moment goes exactly as planned.

No matter what kind of wedding you're planning and how fabulous the party later on turns out to be, the most important part of the day is of course the actual ceremony. And although you will probably concentrate most of your time and financial resources on the ensuing celebration, there are a few practical considerations to think about, in order to ensure that the service goes swimmingly.

To The Church On Time?

We all know it's the bride's prerogative to be late for the most important appointment of her life, traditional even, but is it really such a good idea? In reality, timing the grand arrival for around five minutes or so after the ceremony's due to start is preferable to being bang on time, if only to save the red faces of any stragglers sneaking in at the back. And maybe a 15-minute window is acceptable as it certainly helps build the anticipation for the guests. But to turn up 20 or 30 minutes late is, frankly, bad manners unless there's a very good reason, such as an AWOL hairdresser or the bridal car being hit by lightening on the way there. Especially when you think about it from other people's point of view; perhaps your nearest and dearest have been rushing to get there on time, then they might sit in a cold church on uncomfortable pews wishing they'd had some breakfast before the big event.

A Waiting Game

And what about the poor groom? Even if he's the most laidback guy in the world, this is the one day in his life that he will surely be feeling a little jittery, so why prolong his agony? Maybe it's a warm day; if so, kilt outfit plus nerves equals the sweat lashing off him. Couples say it's the agonising wait before the big day kicks off when they feel most anxious. So get on with it! And if you are running late, as a courtesy to him ask a bridesmaid to phone somebody who's already at the venue, so at least he'll know roughly when to expect you.

Magic Moments

Most brides will have visualised the all-important trip down the aisle many times before it happens for real; friends and family straining their necks to get a look at the lovely bride, perhaps spotting a few loved ones as you glide elegantly towards the groom, maybe Handel's Bridal March adding to the atmosphere. It all sounds fabulous, and it is indeed likely to be an unforgettable moment for all concerned. Which is precisely why it shouldn't be rushed. If there was any one moment that should be savoured, this is it - but some brides find that a combination of nerves, anticipation and adrenaline encourages an overwhelming temptation to sprint down the aisle. Instead, take a deep breath and when you're ready enjoy a dignified stroll in all your bridal glory.

The Vow Factor

The exchange of vows is the most significant part of the ceremony, this is the point when you finally signal your consent to the ultimate commitment. Some couples may worry that they'll freeze up or stumble over the words, but the ceremony is designed to make things as easy as possible for you. The celebrant only gives you a few words at a time, so your memory thankfully isn't tested, and he/she is ready to help should you falter. Married couples say that any mistakes merely serve to break the tension, so don't worry about it.

Look Into My Eyes

Some couples choose to write their own vows, which can make the ceremony more personal and possibly even more memorable for guests. Others decide to learn their vows by heart, rather than repeat them phrase by phrase after the celebrant. If you've got the confidence this is a great way to get married - though perhaps it's not such a good idea if you're a particularly emotional person; it might just be a bit too much as you stand there gazing into his eyes! However you decide to express your marriage vows, just remember to take it all in and enjoy it.